Nov 19, 2019
HELMET EPISODE! You're going to need one for this one.
Our body image story and our relationship with food is buried DEEP.
Under hundreds if not thousands of layers of years worth of
stories, social conditioning, and self-confirming biases that make
us all feel what we've been taught to be true: our body is bad and
must be managed AND our body and appearance is THE MOST IMPORTANT
thing about us.
Key word: taught.
Some people are taught how to eat with chopsticks,
others are taught how to use a fork- in my early 20's, I learned
how to use chopsticks properly. All of this to say, we can learn
new things. And we can unlearn things that don't serve us.
Remember that time I told you all my money-relationship story? I
learned that money was bad and people with money were bad. Is this
true? No way. I had to unlearn it- that thought, particularly as a
business owner, is NOT helpful to me in any way. But it felt so
true. It was a part of my learned familial value system- and I had
a choice: unlearn the garbage that wasn't serving me or hate people
with money, stay broke for my entire life by mismanaging my money,
not charging enough, and using this to gather evidence that proved
my belief: MONEY IS BAD. But, what kind of life is that?
The same is true with our bodies. Our beliefs don't serve us. Sit
with your beliefs for a moment- how do they feel? Do they make you
want to expand and lean into your life or hide, contract, and cry
in a corner? Exactly.
We must unlearn this things. And it's emotional, it's hard work,
and it doesn't start out feeling warm and fuzzy- it starts out
feeling SO DAMN UNCOMFORTABLE. But on the other end of digging
these things up is a freedom you never knew you had access to, a
freedom you never knew you had the right to experience.
First, we have to identify where we learned this from. And in most
cases? From our parents. Then it gets buried under decades worth of
more evidence and social-priming that makes it feel absolutely,
without a doubt irrefutable.
But we have to go deep.
Today, we're talking about how your parents' relationship to their
own body and food impacted you. And you can take this however you
want- begin undoing your own self-worth and body-image story,
and/or make damn sure you're not passing on generations worth of
bullshit onto your children. You've got your work cut out for you-
we all do.
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