Nov 13, 2019
Have you ever watched someone do something and you think to
yourself "it can't be THAT hard!"?
...then you do it, and you're frustrated that it IS hard? Then you
attach some BS story to it feeling hard and want to quit? Yeah,
that's expectation mismanagement, and it usually comes from a lack
of understanding of what it actually takes to be good at something,
what it actually takes to make something "look" easy.
When someone knows the ins-and-outs of something, they're able to
correctly manage your expectations. If someone ever told me that
"running a business is easy", I'd have to assume that they have
NEVER ran a business themselves.
If someone told me that push-ups were easy, I'd have to assume that
they don't actually know the ins-and-outs of what a pushup ACTUALLY
is. It's not just "push yourself up and down off the ground"- it's
more like "make sure you're breathing, core is activated, glutes
are tight, quads are squeezed, hands are underneath your shoulder
joint, wrists stacked underneath elbows at the top, elbows go back
behind you like an arrow, NOT out to the sides like a T-shape.
Exhale as you push the ground away..." and THEN comes the actual
trouble-shooting. What if someone's pushup form is GARBAGE? Now
what? Someone who doesn't know enough about how to teach to a
push-up (or anything!) will be unable to teach it. The problem with
this is that it mismanages your expectations. You're thinking "GOD!
This person is telling me it's just push yourself UP off the
ground!" And the truth it, it's not that simple- and across the
board, almost NOTHING is that simple.
Almost nothing is inherently EASY.
Here's the thing- you have to earn your right for something to feel
easy. You have to earn your right to be able to make push-ups look
easy, you have to earn your right for business to look easy- you
have to earn your easy for almost every single thing you'll ever
try. It's not supposed to be easy- if it were? Everyone would do
it- whatever "it" is.
So you get to decide. Do you want *that thing* bad enough that
you're willing for it to be hard? Are you willing to fight and earn
your "easy"?